‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
The most delicate relationship you will ever have on the planet is the one you have with yourself. The way that you talk to yourself or think of yourself sets the tone for your whole life. If you came from an unhealthy home environment, you may be so used to these negative thoughts that you think they are true. The important thing here is not to get bogged down with being angry and blaming the family member(s) who planted these thoughts into the family. The odds are high that these same thoughts were said to them in their childhood homes.
It’s best to forgive them and get that poison out of your system. As an adult, you are now responsible for how you love yourself. Do you know what the greatest commandment given by Jesus (post 10 commandments) is?
30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[b] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[c] There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31
You are commanded to love yourself! God takes this very seriously. You are his creation.
Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
How Do You Stop?
So, how do you stop beating yourself up? You can use the same fasting formula as in day 1. When you catch yourself in a negative thought, ask the Lord for another way of looking at this. Or, you can ask him what HE thinks about what you think. I have another example from my journal from one of my fasts.
The first thing I did when I woke up this morning was to look into the mirror. All I could see all my faults. I only saw that I was older than I used to be. I could only focus on my failure. I could only see the failures of my entire life. I saw the extra layers of fat on my body as failure too … imperfection.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
Psalm 139:14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Now it’s your turn.
Get your pad handy to write down what you see …
- Go look in the mirror. write down the first thing that you think. Do you like what you see? Do you see flaws? Does it make you feel bad about yourself? Can you feel the weight of those thoughts in your mind?
- Now, ask the Lord to show you what he thinks? Write down what he says. How does that make you feel?
Try doing this a few times a day or every day for a week. We need to let his thoughts become greater than our own.
If you have a story that you can share, please post it in the comments ?
Tomorrow we deal with what we think others think of us .. also known as the fear of man.